My STARS Talk and Transformational Medicine
In 2010, back in my roller derby days, I started a little Facebook “blog” I called Taco Tuesday. What began as a playful outlet quickly grew — especially among women — and became the launch pad for my deeper studies in sexuality, sexual medicine, and women’s health.
By 2015, after completing my Functional Medicine certification, my focus pivoted fully to sexual medicine. Not surprisingly, this shift came alongside my own perimenopausal transition. Back then, everyone called it a “mid-life crisis.” I hated that term. To me, it wasn’t a crisis — it was a mid-life awakening.
My interest in sexuality was born from my own sexual awakening. At the time, I was in a long-term marriage I had believed would be “’til death do us part.” I felt the urgency to connect with the sexual energy I had suppressed for most of my life — especially with the looming narrative of “menopause as sexual death.” I wasn’t willing to accept that.
So, I did what I’ve always done best: I learned. My curiosity led me into sexuality studies, into leading a sex-positive community (SPP), and into developing my own framework for sexual communication — The STARS Talk. It eventually carried me into becoming a facilitator, speaker, and writer.
Over the last 10 years, I’ve woven together my functional medicine education, sexuality knowledge, family medicine experience, and somatic trauma-informed training into a unique blend of care and teaching that I now call Transformational Medicine. My own personal journey has led me to work from a place of joy: helping others embrace their bodies, their health, and their truth.
